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Spotting The Signs

Spotting the signs of domestic abuse.

The information below may help you identify the signs and symptoms of Domestic Abuse and enable you to help the person who is currently suffering from it. You could make a difference!

Many of our team at Project Salama have lived experience of domestic abuse and understand the numerous feelings a person suffering from DA maybe experiencing. 

To help you spot the sign please look out for the following in your friend.

  • They may be overwhelmed by fear, and they may feel shame, guilt and
  • They may believe they are to blame and that if they somehow change then the abuse will stop.
  • They may be experiencing many conflicting emotions. And they may be dependent on their partner, emotionally and financially.
  • They may feel hopeless and find it hard to make decisions.
  • They may be very anxious and or depressed.
  • They may be worried about their children.
There may be other signs that you notice; Physical signs;
  • Physical Injuries. Or coving up injuries by wearing heavy makeup, wearing sunglasses indoors, wearing long sleeves and/or scarves in hot weather. Wearing worn clothes.
Behavioural Signs;
  • May act afraid or anxious to please their partner.
  • Presents themselves as fearful and/or withdrawn and maybe extremely apologetic.
  • Financial dependency which could mean they can’t access their own money and/or use their partners card to purchase items.
How can You help this person/friend stay safe? The safety of your friend or loved one – and their children – is paramount. Talk to them about how they can stay safe. By showing an interest and care you can help them to act towards getting help. You could:
  • Agree on a code word so she can signal when she is in danger and needs you to get help
  • Find out about services which could support her locally or nationally
  • Offer to keep a spare set of keys for her or important documents, such as passports, bank account details and benefit information so that she can access them quickly in an emergency
  • Keep a log of the abusive incidents; encourage her to visit the GP and keep copies of emails and texts.
  • Encourage them to call Project Salama on 01635 953588 for support
Remember, in an emergency and if you fear for your friend’s safety, always call 999.